The Plot Thickens
Posted By: Ali Anderson
I have no earthly idea how many licks it takes to get to the center of a Tootsie Roll Pop. It’s certainly worth knowing because at some point in my Trivial Pursuit-playing future, I’m sure to take the game-winning pie slice with the answer to that mystery. It’s just that there are so many variables involved. Like tongue surface area; am I licking the Tootsie Roll Pop or is Gene Simmons? Or how about technique; are we talking about vertical licks or some kind of swirly, involves-a-lot-of-spit technique? It’s a conundrum that has confounded me since childhood.
That’s kind of how I felt about Karen Buckley’s business exercise this week. It was a gigantic Tootsie Roll Pop that I kept licking and licking. And then slobbering all over. Karen asked us to examine our outer business identity in connection with our inner business identity to see where there was alignment and conflict. All that licking was exhausting, but I finally got to that chewy, chocolaty center and I found something unexpected; I can learn a lot by comparing how others see me with how I see myself.
But before I continue, I need you all to promise you won’t run screaming for the hills like I just made you listen to an American Idol medley. This week I resorted to – wait for it…graphs. I needed a way to visualize these competing identities.

I hear crickets. Anyone still there? Let’s dig in and take it a step further.
Considering my photography talent and business skills, I perceive myself on the middle of the spectrum between okay and great. I’ve invested a lot of time and energy into my craft, but let’s face it: I’m still new. That’s not a bad thing, but it’s a reality. Opposite to that, I perceive others see my talent on the spectrum as slightly better than okay, but I still have a ways to go. Now stay with me while I plot myself on a graph. When you put those two perceptions together, I fall right about here:

OK, good. So if I want to be successful in the photography business, I want to be consistently moving towards that upper right hand corner of the graph where I’m confident in my talent and other people are too. But how do I improve? There’s a graph for that.

Hey you. In the back of the class. If you’re still awake, here’s the way I see it:
- If you fall in the bottom right corner, you need to Market Yourself: You think you’re great, but no one knows it, so you need to get your brand out there. Entire blogs are devoted to this kind of thing; one of my go-to blogs is Jeff Jochum’s Startup-Strategy.com.
- If you fall in the top left corner, you need to Improve Yourself: Everyone else thinks you’re great, but you have some confidence issues, so you need to work on improving your skills. Shoot, take classes, shoot and might I be so bold as to suggest getting yourself to the nearest CONFIDENCE workshop? And you should also get out there and shoot.
- If you fall in the bottom left corner, you need to Rethink Yourself: This is a tough one. This doesn’t mean you quit. This means it takes a lot of work, commitment and reflection about what your talents are and where you can do the most good with them.
- Realize Yourself: This is where you want to be; inner and outer identities reconciled. Living in this quadrant seems perfectly unattainable, but having it there gets you pointed in the right direction.
So I thought about what I need to do to move myself to where I want to be in the upper corner. I decided I would do two things to market myself and one thing to improve my talent.
- First, my chiropractor has been asking me to hang some work in her office for months: stop procrastinating, Ali.
- Second, I have a business, but no business cards to hand out. I’ll hand out at least twelve in the next month.
- And third, I am going to take the night photography course I’ve been wanting to take for months now. And an added bonus – no one in the class will refer to me as, “Hey, Mom”.
When I start putting action into my ideas, my graph starts to look a little less like an algebra quiz and more like something I can actually use.
I’m certain there are so many other ways to evaluate your place in life and in business. But when I was trying to reconcile my inner identity with my outer identity, thinking of it like this actually made sense to me. If it makes sense to you, feel free to print the chart, make any modifications to improve it and see where you are. If it seems completely useless to you, go ahead and print the chart anyway and you can put my head on it for your next game of darts.
Either way, leave me a comment and let me know where you are on the chart. I really want to know!
And personally, when I need a little added motivation, I just use this chart instead:

~Ali



I hate to say where I perceive myself. I feel pretty solid in my abilities and I THINK others do too. (Articulating what it is that I do is a different story.)I think I am somewhere just under Robert Downey Jr’s nose.
mmm, Robert Downey… yes, I’ll go there too, thanks
I am such a visual person, so your charts were perfect! Thanks! I especially LOVE the last one
Again….laughter is pouring out! What AWESOME graphs!!!!! I can’t wait to use them on myself. Fabu!!!!
Just when I think you can’t top the last post…you do! You hit this outta the box woman! I love it and yes I’m gonna print the chart, but I will leave my face off. I’m kinda tired of looking at myself. All this self assessment and analysis is killing me. (smile)
Ali, This is a great way to break things down. Graphs are so visual, and as a photographer, I tend to think more visually! I’m going to use this for my self/business (maybe with Johnny Depp instead). But I may have to actually ask people what they think of my work, because I tend to discredit myself. I suppose that would be a lack in Confidence. Which, I’m hoping to take the Seattle CONFIDENCE WORKSHOP in September.
Ali,
Clear analysis! Love it!! Once you test your assumptions about how others see you and unearth your own mindless chatter you can get specific how to grow. New marketing strategies. New skill building activities. New inner capacity – so you trust the positive feedback others give you and act as if it’s true even when you don’t yet know for sure. Out of this comes consistent action!
I think my question is that I am not sure if I trust the sincerity of others when they say how “good” I am. This was recently confirmed by a friend of mine who is from S. America. She was giving a presentation and afterward everyone came to her, giving her a trite “goooood joooob!!”. But she said it was really corny and seemingly fake…I often times feel this way as well and wonder about the sincerity of others’ support and feedback. My only real discernment I suppose is from clients(?), I suppose…How do you measure that side of the grid?? The other way I suppose is print competition, perhaps??
Regardless, I will likely keep myself in the middle…simply because I always want to keep improving, I always want to realize. Maybe not rethink…and I need to market more no matter what! LOL!!
Thanks for writing this Ali. I’ve finally decided to take the plunge and try to build a business as a professional photographer. So I’ll do this chart on myself, but I may put Hugh Jackman in the top right quadrant.
This post is fabulous Ali!!!
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