September’s Business Coaching exercise for the SOAR! Scholarship was POWERFUL!  In case you missed it, I wanted to share Karen’s wisdom with you this morning.  A week from today, she’ll be posting October’s Business Coaching exercise!  Time flies, but you can’t miss this one!  Women struggle with overgiving on so many different levels.  How can we still be givers but not at the expense of our own peace of mind?  Read along and be inspired this morning!

xoxo,

Me Ra

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Overgiving: Not Exactly a Good Business Practice, by Karen Buckley

An ancient oak tree outside my office window seems to be home to a hummingbird couple. The male, with his flashy red throat, and the beautiful brown female sip at pink fuschia all day long. Today as I watched them I felt exhausted and ready for my own sip of nectar! There was nothing left in me to give and I still had a lot to complete on the Next Octave program materials.

Do you ever wonder – why doesn’t the flower look parched when it gives and gives? It hit me. The flower doesn’t give too much. It doesn’t squeeze out every last drop just because the hummingbird is still thirsty!

Clearly I am not as smart as a flower. :-) I help, give, and extend myself to others and leave no time for my own personal or business priorities. Can anyone relate? Last week I brought a meal to a sick neighbor, took care of a friend after surgery, walked the dog on his favorite trail, and fixed my son a yummy breakfast. I gave extra time to a client in crisis and edited another client’s proposal. I’m a generous soul!  It feels good to give and I dearly love every one of them. But if I tell the truth, I ended up parched. I deprived myself to give to others. I felt stressed, crabby, and tired and my business suffered.

What’s the secret? Balancing inflow and outflow are essential for business success and personal joy over the long haul. It seems obvious, I know. You spend more money than comes in and you are in trouble financially. But, personally it’s somehow easier to cheat.

To give all that outflow I sacrificed my inflow – missed yoga twice, and missed sleep as I completed a client job at 5am, cleaned the house until midnight. I fell behind on my important but less urgent business priorities and worked in the wee hours Saturday and Sunday to catch up. And what did I do for my own pleasure and fun last week? Nothing much. Is this sounding familiar?

Every day I talk to women in coaching sessions who place themselves and building their business foundation as a low priority. Then… they beat themselves up for the slow growth of their business!

Take a look at your week. Is it all about others? One small business owner discovered that her calendar was full of urgent client requests and kid, friend, and extended family appointments! None of her foundation building time – the editing, scrapbook making, marketing, financial planning or office work – were in her time plan. And her business suffered because of it.

What would you create in your life if you put your time and attention behind what matters the most to you? (BTW Me Ra – thank you for choosing to put your attention to writing and blogging and speaking – we all love it so much!}

Two business coaching questions for today:

1. What are your less urgent but important business priorities? What is essential to build your foundation? (Do you have these written down and posted above your desk?) (Are they realistic, specific, small enough to get them done and exciting enough to motivate you?)

2. When will you give these some time? (Set blocks of time in your calendar – even if you miss one you will have a chance to catch up with several times scheduled.) (It works really well to make it the same time each week and set your timer!)

Without a strong foundation a building tilts. As businesswomen, it’s important that we balance our inflow and outflow. This will ultimately nurture everyone! And build successful businesses as well.

Know who you are and walk proud in yourself. As women we come from generations of nurturing life – we don’t need to prove it by over giving to be worthwhile.

Now I’m going to take a nice warm bath and put my feet up with a cup of tea!

Warmest regards to you all,

Karen Buckley

Fay and Karen, Business Coaches for SOAR! Scholarship

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4 Comments: “Are You Overgiving?…not the Best Business Practice”

  1. Delanae says:

    Beautifully written Karen! I love the flower analogy! It really struck me profoundly!

  2. Addie says:

    Karen – Thank you so much for this post. It hit home and was perfect timing for me in more ways than one. Although it is not always easy to do, I know that it is important to make time to replenish. This was a great reminder of how important that is because it reminded me that to be able to help take care of all the others I must also take care of myself.

  3. Jen MacNiven says:

    Karen,
    This is so true…I do the same, we all do. The fear of failing in friendships makes me push off daily tasks, to instead, go for a walk or get drinks with friends…vs doing what needs to help me grow in my business and in my personal endevours.
    Oh how I miss you and wish to continue our coaching. I need you right now! ;)
    Hope all is well and that you can begin to be that ‘flower’. ;)

  4. Mel Kukler says:

    Nice, I am happy to find this good words