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SOAR! Photography Exercise #1: Doing the Deeper Work, 2011

Me Ra Koh

Forewarning: It’s a long one.  🙂

And so we begin the SOAR! Photography Exercises ladies!  Each month, beginning of the second week, I will post up a different photography exercise for all of you.  Over the next few days, you will get to see Rachel, Charisse and Ali’s share their results and process.  And then we especially invite you to post up your own results at www.soarority.com!  The first photography exercise starts with Doing the Deeper Work. It’s not a technically focused exercise, but it is one of the most important (and painful) exercises you must do when working to become a better photographer.

Directions for Photography Exercise #1

The first SOAR! Photography Exercise is a Self Portrait Photography Exercise. You will take TWO Self Portraits.  One image will have you in the photo.  The second one will be an object that symbolizes you.  Both Self Portraits are meant to document where you are in your journey of life.  When you think about this present season of life–this monumental moment in your journey of being committed to SOAR!, being on your way to become a successful photographer…How do you feel?   Are you excited, afraid, alone?  What colors are you wearing?  If we saw your true insides, what would they look like right now?  What object would symbolize this time in life?  What angle would you shoot it from and why?

You can do this photography exercise in different ways.  You can either set your camera on a counter top or tripod and use the self timer to photograph yourself.  Or, you can collaborate with someone you trust.  I have done Self Portraits where I set the timer, but I often like to work with Brian.  He is a safe person for me to share “what this is that I want to convey”.  He and I talk together, and we find a way to best express my idea in an image.  And then he shoots it, or I shoot it when I’m alone.

This is one of my Self Portraits right now.

I couldn’t help but feel drawn into how meaningful this photo is for me.  These last six to nine months feel like I’m breaking a trail into new territory for myself, our business, our family, all the above.  Even though the trail blazing is exciting, all the newness can often feel cold because it’s simply unfamiliar.  Some days I miss the comforting warmth that familiar paths and places bring.  But at the same time, I’m determined to bundle up and move forward.  I can’t help but move forward.

If you think I cheated because you can’t see my face in the Self Portrait, how about this one?  🙂

‘What is going on?  What is this a picture of?’ you wonder.  This is me CLINGING to the side of a sail boat a couple weeks ago in CA.  Remember my word for 2011, Adaptability?  Well, this is me trying to find my balance on a paddle board as a personal Adaptability exercise.  I went from skis to a paddle board.  Ha!  I was so wobbly on that paddle board that it was all I could do to hold on to the sailboat for dear life (which didn’t help my balance AT ALL!).  But this photo is an incredibly accurate Self Portrait of my life right now.  It’s a good reminder for me of “what is so” in regards to our first Business Coaching SOAR! Exercise last week.  What is so?  I’m on the board.  I’m not standing on the dock any more, wishing I had the guts to try this.  What is so?  I’m scared to death but I’m also laughing and having fun.  What is so?  Falling in the water is cold but not the end of the world.  What is so?  The board will still be floating and ready for me to get back on again.

Six months from now, I hope to look back at these two Self Portraits and see that I’ve found more comfort in this new season of life because the new surroundings aren’t so cold and unfamiliar.  The coldness isn’t as threatening as it feels.  The paddle board of life is still floating, and I’ve managed to not only let go of the sailboat but even go exploring.  Maybe I’m not standing.  Maybe I’m on my knees.  The important fact is that I’m no longer next to the dock–hanging on for dear life.  Growth.  We all experience it, but unless we take a moment to pause we often miss it.

The logistics and technicalities are not the issue with this photography exercise.  The vulnerability and honesty are the heart of this endeavor.

I’ll warn you now, we will do this exercise one, maybe two more times, over the next year.  You will be amazed at how much you have transformed.  To see the transformation, we need a starting point.  The starting point is the hardest place to expose.  But ladies, it’s worth it.  In fact, if you have time look at the transformation that happened in last year’s SOAR! Recipients (Linda, Jennifer and Lindsay).  When it comes to seeing change and growth in ourselves, we often have to see it to believe it.  Anyone hear me?  🙂

What do I do with my Self Portraits, once I have them?

Once you have your Self Portraits, we invite you to post them on the SOARORITY forum.  I’ve started a new thread for this photography exercise with specific directions on what to do with these Self Portraits.  Yes, you will do something with them as a group on SOARORITY.  I’m sure it will be very powerful.

Do I have to do this Self Portrait Exercise?

I can already feel some of your shoulders tense up as you read this.  ‘A Self Portrait Exercise?!  I don’t want to do that!  How is that going to make be a better photographer?  What does that have to do with SOARing?’

The answer ladies…everything.

There are thousands of good photographers in the world.  But I believe that to become a GREAT photographer, you must first go deep within–and not just once but over and over again.  You must do the deeper work of making yourself vulnerable, before asking a client or photo subject to be vulnerable for you.  You can only lead someone to feel as comfortable in front of the camera, as you are in front of the camera.  But it’s not just about being in front of the camera.  It’s much more.

I would like to start the year by saying, SOAR! is not a sole pursuit of being a great photographer.  SOAR! is so much more.  It’s about tapping into your Feminine Wisdom, discovering what those two words even mean, and how they will help guide you into building the business you want.  It’s also about becoming not just a Photographer but an Artist.  If you are an artist, the world holds endless inspiration for you.  If you are only a Photographer, you are already limiting yourself.

Strive to be an Artist: a woman that is not only creative with her photography but with how she structures her business, how she creates a daily life that brings herself and family fulfillment and joy, how she processes the beauty around her, and ultimately, how she translates this beauty for others.  This is SOAR!

SOAR! is about calling out the Artist within you.  But let me say that the artist is a child within.  And if you stopped listening to this child years ago, it will be a beautiful and sometimes painful process to beckon her voice back in your life.  And yet, to have this relationship restored–the artist child within and your adult self now–this is where your power will come from.

Julia Cameron writes, “The road to authentic art is through the self.   More specifically, it lies through the heart, not the head.  Your loves, your hates, your scars, glories, fears, losses, triumphs–your heart is the heart of the matter.  Heart is where the art is.”

This exercise is not meant to be easy.  If we didn’t challenge you this year, you wouldn’t grow.  I feel convicted to challenge you in the ways that have brought me freedom, growth and ultimately, more success and joy than I could ever imagine.  These “ways” are nontraditional when I think of all the information available on “how to be a better and more successful photographer”.  But these ways, these journeys of self discovery, have caused me to stand with more confidence than I knew I even had.  They have helped me SOAR!

But it all starts with humble beginnings.  The kind of beginning that is uncomfortable but at the same time airs out the locked up places so new growth, powerful growth, can happen.

If it’s any comfort, last year Linda, Jennifer and Lindsay all shared that this first Photography Exercise was difficult and uncomfortable.  Our current SOAR! Recipients are working their way through it now.  You are not alone.  We hope that this inspires you and helps you continue to feel safe and supported.

I know that this is a difficult exercise from my own experiences with it.  But I believe in all of you.  I know you can do it.  And the reward will be amazing.

xoxo,

Me Ra

p.s. I’d love to extend the invitation I did last year.  If there are any former Discovery Workshop ladies that would like to share how powerful this exercise was, please do!  You can read about mine by CLICKING HERE!  Tomorrow, Rachel will share her Self Portraits, Wednesday will be Charisse, and Thursday will be Lindsay.  They are stretching their wings ladies.  Posting these images is no easy task, and I applaud their willingness to do it.

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  1. Dawn Beirnes says:

    Hi Me Ra,

    I have a question for you….I have recently purchased the Sony A55. I have a Canon 40d, but I LOVE the photos I get with the Sony. I know SO much is put into worrying about what camera you have, my blog or web site isn’t as cool as so and so’s, etc. I feel like I can really FINALLY get started with my photography with this camera! For me, this camera is much lighter, smaller than my canon. This really helps when your shooting for a long period of time. You are one of the only true SONY photographers that I know of, so I guess what I’m looking for is a big ole’ AMEN to feeling like this camera is awesome enough to start into a business with! I know (in a few years) I would want to upgrade to another camera, but I truly believe that I would stick with Sony. ANy hints or advice that you (or ANYONE else reading this) could give me would be so awesome!

  2. Me Ra says:

    Are you kidding Dawn!! I’ll give you the BIGGEST AMEN!!! I love the A55!! That is an AMAZING, cutting edge camera that many will soon follow! Don’t let yourself get caught into the talk that the heavier cameras or what qualifies our abilities. Simply not true.

    I shoot with the A55 every time I’m on the Nate Berkus set. It’s performance is outstanding on so many levels, and that’s why I trust it in such a high intensity environment. So you go girl!!! Go! Go! Go!!
    Love,
    m

  3. MeRa,
    I want to say thank you for this post. I have been contemplating how to illustrate who I am, what I stand for, appreciation for where I have been, where I am and where I want to grow. I promise, I will do this exercise and post my results even if I don’t really like seeing myself. I realize that stretching, even to the point of feeling exposed, will bring clarity to my vision as an artist. I have a few concepts rolling around in the ole noggin. Your exercise suggestion of the self portrait has challenged me and charged my batteries. I love both of your personal examples. Both of your illustrations are very different in mood and energy but I like how you expressed that your core message is very similar. I get it. I see you.
    You are the best !

  4. Jill says:

    MeRa,
    I feel so blessed that you have been introduced into my life. Your wisdom and SOAR is just what I am looking for in my life at this time. Thank you for the wonderful resources you have provided. I thank the universe for you! You are a beautiful woman.

  5. Dawn Beirnes says:

    thank you SOOO much Me Ra! Until I can get my confidence to a level where it needs to be, I will always question and 2nd guess myself. I love my Sony (I have got to give it a name!). I hope to start saving up for a G series lens next. I actually have set my Sony and Canon on the exact settings and taken the same shot…..the differences in the shots are just crazy.

  6. Rhonda says:

    I love your pictures. I’ve been thinking on what to do for the new self-portrait for awhile now. I think I’m going to see if the girls in my worship photo group want to join me on this for our next get together.

    You may want to change the ps to say that Thursday will be Ali.
    xoxo

  7. Delanae says:

    Amazing… as I was reading this post I was thinking, “Great… I’ve just gotten over the trauma of doing the SOAR! video… now I have to expose myself again.

    I’ve had so many traumatic things happen to me in my life that I do realize I have built up a wall, one that I’m completely comfortable to hide behind… and I would too if I didn’t know it wasn’t good for me.

    I started thinking about the past 10 years and tears started streaming down my face. In 2001 I was living in a different town, married to a different man, I had two kids living at home, different dogs, cats, and all of them are someplace else now. One by one each one of them have either moved on, some by choice, some not. How could I be the same person as I was back then when I look around and I don’t even have the same functioning body I did back then? Everything about me and around me is different.

    It’s time for me to stop putting up that wall so I don’t have to mourn the loss of things I no longer have and embrace what is so. I realize I’ve been fighting it, I’ve never allowed myself to look back and embrace those things, I haven’t shed a tear (except when my dog died). For the most part I put on a stiff upper lip and sucked it up and moved forward thinking this was just me being strong. When I felt the tears come, I just got busy doing something else and kept busy until the feeling loss went away. Perhaps this exercise will force me to face it, accept it, then (hopefully) tear down the wall. I’m tired.

    I don’t want my husband to help me because he tends to stifle my creative side and we bicker, a lot. I would love for any one of my new friends from the confidence seminar a week ago come assist me in this journey, or, just someone local, female please. I know what I want to do. I would be happy to assist you in yours. delanae@delanae.com

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  10. Oh my I must admit I am such a pessimist about self empowerment through exercise, not sure why, suffered from chronic depression my whole life I think turning 40 and getting fatter has put me in a bit of a dark spot w/ some low self esteem issues. (Most do not know this about me but feel this is a safe place for expression, I always put on a strong front). I am currently out of the country doing some volunteer work and so hoping I can fit these exercises into my schedule because I think it’s time I give something like this, AWESOME exercise a try. I HATE getting my photo taken. Hubby took a photo of me and some of our new friends and one asked me to cover HER belly w/ my body so I did and found myself Photo Shopping out MY BELLY before forwarding it to friends and family. So this has made me realize what my exercise may have to be, YEESH!!! Exciting times ahead, THX Me Ra

  11. Me Ra says:

    Taunya, thank YOU for your honesty. I’m so glad you find this as a safe place. Cheers to a new season in your life. It sounds like you are so uncomfortable in the nest that life is leaving you no other choice but to leap and try flying. You must keep us updated b/c I just feel this excitement for you.
    xoxo,
    m

  12. Sarah C says:

    Me Ra, What’s your object?

  13. jayna says:

    Hi, I’ve been reading a lot of your posts and try out a lot of the exercises you post. I want to try the Self Portrait. I have a question about my settings. I like to shoot on Manual, because I don’t get stuck not being able to shoot some pics. (I have a canon eos rebel btw with a 50 mm lens) I guess my question is: Is it terribly wrong to keep settings at 1/30 and f1.8? I change the ISO, but nothing else.

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